Will I ever be enough?
I think it’s a question all women struggle with. We are our own worst critics – we constantly compare ourselves to those around us and to the picture we have of who we want to be, and so often we disappoint ourselves because we can only see our own shortcomings.
So in case you need to hear it: you are enough.
You, the one worrying that you are somehow failing because you haven’t sung to your baby enough, or read him the right bedtime stories, or made enough eye contact with her during the last feeding because you can barely keep your eyes open. You, the one who hasn’t slept because you made a mess of the birthday cake pops and had to start over. You, the one who is working two jobs and can’t sleep in spite of the exhaustion because you worry that you’re letting them down. You, the stay-at-home mom who feels guilty for wanting some grown up time for just. five. minutes.
This is your note excusing you from being perfect. There are going to be moments – heck, DAYS, that are complete failures. We are going to blow it. We are going to let them down. We are going to fall short of perfection.
Let it go… please?
Can we let go of the expectation that we have to be amazing all the time? We are human. We try, we fail, we learn, we get back up by the grace of God and do it again tomorrow. And in the process we teach our children how to try and fail and learn and get back up by the grace of God and do it all again tomorrow. Can we agree to end the competition, the comparisons and the code of conduct that says everything needs to be pin-worthy and post-worthy?
You are enough. They are enough. Life, with all its imperfections, and the very set of circumstances you find yourself in the midst of right now – are enough.
Because we weren’t made to be perfect. We weren’t called to be Pinteresting. We weren’t promised a picture perfect life. We were each created with a unique purpose and unique character. We were created to reflect God’s light and bring glory to Him.
You’re enough because the God who created everything is enough, His grace is sufficient for us, He has called us as we are and He loves us – with all our broken parts and inadequacies and fears. When we embrace that and stop trying to fill in the gaps on our own, the divine happens: God fills them in, better than we could ever hope to, and uses us in ways that are bigger than we could believe possible.
“Such confidence we have through Christ toward God. Not that we are adequate in ourselves to consider anything as coming from ourselves, but our adequacy is from God, who also made us adequate as servants of a new convenant, not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.” 2 Corinthians 3:4-6